Thanks, both of you.
You are right that cancer is fickle and could be caused by many different reasons. Feeling guilty about it isn't going to help - we both met when we were in our 40's so the only way to have avoided
HPV would to both be virgins up to that point which isn't very likely :-)
We are still waiting for the results and trying to keep a positive mindset.
I'll update with the results once they come through.
Maddie