wow thank you Christine! I had been doing some research and was finding possibly a strong connection between drinking regularly and oral cancer. Then his son said, well, maybe he just wants to enjoy life. Actually, his idea of enjoying life is one reason he's where he is health wise. He does not believe chewing tobacco, smoking and drinking quite a lot have anything to do with his cancer. He truly does not believe it and has said so.

I'm not going to be surprised to see cans of tobacco sooner rather than later. I hope not but I will not be surprised.

I will do some more reading. He has been warned about the drinking. And yes, if you are hiding it, you know it's wrong. I don't say a word about it to him. I just keep my eyes open.