It's a lot to take in. I had to sit and ponder things for a couple of days after I found out mine had cancer. I didn't even know he was going to see an ENT about a sore throat so it was a total shock. I have done a lot of educating myself and reading here and learning from others. It helps me deal with stuff.

I had to get over the fact that I am taking care of someone who has verbally and emotionally abused me for a couple of decades and I know I will have days where I want to throw something at the wall out of frustration but I my faith is what is keeping me moving forward while I watch my husband listen to the doctors on some things and refuse to follow their instruction on other things until he has a struggle.

Hugs to you mikes wife...mine is named Mike as well. We are all in this together.