I was referring to myself answering the call to drive others to treatments.

My husband is already not eating,not sure about drinking.He shuts himself up in the bedroom which he has done for 20 yrs. I put a small fridge in the room so he could have some soft foods or drinks at hand. he had no interest in it. I hate to say this but he is probably shutting down which is typical for him.He takes a lot of depression meds already and has for decades. He hasn't recovered from the pain of the feeding tube inserted 10 days ago. Frustrating to not know if pain is real or not. He purposely has skipped meds because he wants the nurses and doctors to see how much pain he is in. This is going to be a long haul.....I continue to read and learn. thank you