Welcome to OCF, Mrs W! Being from a medical background you understand things in a different way than most of us do. I know many of the stories you read here are sad and upsetting. What you dont often see is all those members who went thru their battle, recovered and returned to their life almost the same as they were before. Those are the members who check in less frequently than many of our regular posting members. Those members are busy out living their lives There is so much happiness mixed in with the sorrow of losing so many dear friends.

Im so very sorry your husband is newly diagnosed but you have come to the very best place for info and support to help you both get thru everything you are facing. It often is not easy but with our pointers you both will get thru it much easier. Those initial appointments are not easy. We all have been where you are and experienced our ears stopped working when the doctors were talking. Its just like the 5 stages of grief how we process being diagnosed with cancer.

One of the first things I can tell you is to start having your husband eat all his favorite foods now. He does not want to go into this with cravings. Its ok if he gains a couple pounds so dont worry about the calories, just enjoy eating everything Second take another person or ask the doc if its ok to record your office visit. We all have experienced our ears not hearing past a certain point in the appointment.

Wishing you both all the best with your appointment tomorrow!!!