Quoting Paul for emphasis:
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Everyone has to make changes for themselves, it's difficult to change anyone, if at all, and can be frustrating. [/quote]
This is really important to realize. I do as much to help my husband as I can, but I can't make him be immortal. I can do my exercises, and other things to turn my mind away from dark thoughts. My excessive worry does not help my husband. Obvious to say, much harder to follow up on. However, realizing the problem is the first step to the solution.
Maria