Quoting Paul for emphasis:
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Everyone has to make changes for themselves, it's difficult to change anyone, if at all, and can be frustrating. [/quote]
This is really important to realize. I do as much to help my husband as I can, but I can't make him be immortal. I can do my exercises, and other things to turn my mind away from dark thoughts. My excessive worry does not help my husband. Obvious to say, much harder to follow up on. However, realizing the problem is the first step to the solution.
Maria


CG to husband - SCC Tonsil T1N2M0 HPV+ Never Smoker
First symptoms 7/2010, DX 12/2010
TX 40 IRMT (1.8 gy) + 10 Cetuximab
PET Scans 6/2011 + 3/2012 clear, 5 year physical exam clear; chest CT's clear of cancer. On thyroid pills. Life is good.