Sandy, read what Christine says. I promise her life, my life and yours will never be the same. Read my signature. I only listed the terminal diagnoses, except for LIFE. That is the one I'm hoping will take me out in the end.
That which was, will never be again, applies to all of us. The quicker we move forward, the more we will enjoy life. There are maybe a million possibilities for all of us, yet only a handful of realities will happen. Wait for them but don't stew on something that can't happen. Borrowing joy from today can't be repaid tomorrow.