Welcome to the forum!
I have found a lot of great information and hope here.

My husband is scheduled for surgery next week with his second opinion doctor (at the CCC) who doesn't feel the neck dissection is necessary at this point.

I qualify as a control freak too, so I have been taping the doctors (I ask them first).
My husband makes lists, takes notes, and asks questions.

Best luck to you and your husband,
Patty




Patty / husband Dx with Stage 1 SCC
November '12, BOT ulcer
June '13, first biopsy-negative.
October '13, second biopsy-positive
November '13, second opinion at CCC, T1
December '13, partial glossectomy.
September '14, biopsy on lymph nodes, 1 tested positive.
October '14, right side neck dissection. 14 nods out, with only one affected.
November '14, T1N1M0 radiation in the recommended by oncologist
December '14, radiation treatment