Hi Mrs Gman, welcome. My wife and I are running almost exactly 24 month ahead of you, similar dx, similar treatment recommendations. The TORS surgery was key, was a radical tonsilectomy, a fair amount of stuff was removed with the tonsil, but after recovery everything still works ok. We had 2 weeks between tonsil and neck surgery, Xmas was in the middle. The tonsil removal recovery was the tough one, using the pain meds correctly made it bearable. The neck surgery had no pain, some discomfort, a drain for a few extra days, some stiffness , and took a while for the skin nerves to reconnect. We got a few opinions on the radiation recommendation, that served us well. We planned for 6 month absence from work (near worst case outcome), but everything went well, all the test results had best possible news, so was back to work part time after 6 weeks. Full time 3 or 4 weeks later. Hopefully yours will be similar. My advise is to get second opinions, get through the tough stuff (dark side) ASAP, then jump back into your normal routine as soon as the doctor recommends. Don't get caught up in the head games or statistics (numbers are generalized and old), focus on next step and try to enjoy the holidays a little. Prayers work great, we'll send some your way...