The therapy you describe sounds good (the quad radiation) I know it is a large invasive surgery. Tam hit it right. Her husband is living the life you were concerned about and seems to be doing insanely well. I don't believe in numbers - the 5% - all that much. They are a guideline but everyone writes their own story. Perhaps maybe you can ask the dr. about a combination of therapies. Maybe do a surgery to debulk and remove as much of the cancer as possible with the quad radiation after? I know Paul had intraoperative radiation too... that might be an option.

also her initial radiation was to her tongue with a painting of her nodes maybe because of this new location they can give her more rads to that area as well?

hugs. and very sorry for all you are going through.