Kazy, first off: you've come to the right place for support and information. You are now officially part of our family and we'll take care of you.
People who've experienced exactly what you're going through will be chiming in shortly to help.
I'm going the leave it to the experts on tongue involvement to guide you in the specifics. But mainly I want you to know that treatments these days are very sophisticated and survivable. It's not going to be easy, but your youth, energy and good attitude are all great things in your favor.
Are you being treated at a Comprehensive Cancer Center (CCC)? Here's a list:
http://oralcancerfoundation.org/resources/cancer_centers.htmWe're with you every step of the way.