Hi, Patsy. Hang in there...
I can address the hearing loss issue for you. Tom already suffered from tinnitis (ringing in the ear) when he was diagnosed. I suspected a slight hearing loss, as well, but he'd not believe it. His 'baseline' hearing test was actually given after his first cisplatin treatment, so it might have already been on a decline, but I know for certain that his hearing is not as good as it was this time last year. He tells me that very often now, he lives with "the cicadas," as that is the sound going through his head 24/7. I forget to ask if it is now remaining, or coming and going. He hasn't had a follow up test, but I know he won't hear the higher tones at all.
You are doing great "keeping it together," and we'll all help you get to the end of this. As Tammy says, love each other A LOT and keep positive even when he can't. I've really learned what being supportive is all about - and whew! I'm sure glad the worst of that job is behind me!!!!
All the best
Nicki