I was very much like your husband. Every pain med they gave me made me nauseated which is just about the last complication a H&N patient needs during this Tx. I finally decided to stop all meds. I lost 30% of my total body weight and was also admitted to the hospital twice and had to visit the ER 3 times. The last hospital stay my wife was told when I was admitted that I was hours away of dying had she not convenience me to agree to go. So trust me I KNOW what he's going through BUT that doesn't make his decision to stop his treatment any more valid.

The one thing all of us learn after being on this site for any length of time is you must treat this cancer as aggressively as possible and as our docs say "throw the kitchen sink at it the first time" in order to have the best possible outcome. They wheeled me down on a hospital gurney to get my last radiation Tx. I was so sick and weak I kept my eyes closed the whole time.

When I was acting like an idiot and refusing to go to the hospital my wife finally screamed at me "OK then just lie there and die!". With that she left the room and didn't return for what seemed to be an eternity. By then I realized how stupid I was acting and agreed to go. Please do not give in to him. You have to be the strong person as we say the nurse from hell sometimes and this is definitely one of those times.

David

Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.