LMC, my heart goes out to you, the role of a caregiver is very tough. To say I was not popular with my husband during parts of his tx would be an understatement...I cannot even count the number of dirty looks he gave me. My tag-line was "you can be as angry as you need to be at me and the situation...just get it done". Now, one year later, my husband is deeply grateful for everything I did for him, including pushing him, hard.

My advice, now is not a time to ease off, no matter how hard it is. Push him. I used everything I had (do this for me, for the kids, for your Mom...just do it!) With this kind of cancer, your first shot at treatment is by far your best shot at a cure. Throw everything you can at getting him through the complete treatment plan.