Hello Francesca,

Your post caused me to reflect upon my behavior and feelings during those first months. I was bitter, resentful, in pain, fearful, couldn't eat very well, couldn't taste very well, financially hurt, and emotionally bare - exposed as weak and vulnerable, in need of other people for survival. All these things caused me to be rather snippy. On edge all the time and sometimes not fun to be around. My wife managed to put up with me and ignore (or understand) most of the things I said. At the same time I was able to recognise and sense a much greater feeling of love between us, which continues today. Let yourself have time for YOU. Don't harbor guilt nor feel responsible. He likely will get over this in time. Compassion and understanding are wonderful but you don't need to make it your problem.

Take care