Francesca, Welcome to the site. Sorry you are having such difficulties, I pray we can lend you some support. All of the above posts make a lot of sense and offer very good advice. Most of the people that responded have been on this board for a while and have offerred much help to others. You can be comfortable trying some of their ideas. As a male patient, I can give some of the impressions I had as I went through treatment and also the post treatment period.

I didn't want to know anything about the treatment for this disease as I was going through it because I didn't want to know what was going to happen. I knew I could handle what came along, but wasn't sure about anticipating what was going to come along. Same way I got through jump school in the army. Because of this, I didn't want to visit this site, even though my wife kept suggesting that I do. After radiation and chemo and before surgery, though, because I knew what surgery was like and what I could expect, I started visiting this site. I found a lot of comfort here as well as the ability to see that I was causing my family some grief due to my crankiness. This was caused a lot because of the pain and reaction to rad/chemo treatment. I kept working throughout my treatment and did not take meds during the day because I am a salesman and drive constantly. I didn't want to wreak the company car or kill myself by falling asleep at the wheel, so I went through the entire 7 weeks without pain meds. I did have a peg (feeding tube)put in as I couldn't even swallow my own saliva, it hurt so much.

Bottom line, I would suggest you show your husband some of these posts and suggest he might find some valuable information on this site. It turned around my whole world to know that others were having or had had the same problems and how they got past them. This could be very valuable for him. I felt funny about it at first, but very soon started visiting the site daily. It helps us cancer victims to help others through this rotten treatment. And there are many others out there who could use your husbands help. Is he going to continue to deny them the help he can offer? I pray he will do the right thing and start to help others on this site.