That's WONDERFUL! That's a BIG step for him to admit that it's rough for him and that he needs to get "into a better space" mentally. Hoorah for you and him! I can't speak on oral cancer specifically, but will say that it does help some people to have someone outside their family network to vent to - especially if that someone has walked in the same shoes. Exercise as tolerated is also a great booster - even just a short walk - better if it's the two of you together I remarried not too long ago. It's been difficult transition & stressful. We always try to either make plans for a short getaway, a project or treat that we both would like, or a goal for a future plan (we're planning on buying an rv to travel!). As soon as we've completed one "task", we always make sure we have another planned - that gives us both something to look forward to and something "else" to focus on besides a stressful situation. Good luck dear, hugs, angels and GOD BLESS!