Hello, Tower.
I can identify with your feelings about 'being an imposter' - but let me tell you, everyone here is wonderful and they will do all they can to help you through this.
My husband had the option of working with local doctors - all very well established and respected - but, as Larry says, it is a good idea to go with those that treat head & neck cancers specifically. It means a 1 1/2 hour drive each way for us, but we think it will be worth the inconvenience in the long run. It seems pretty obvious we only have one chance of doing this 'right.'
I think you'll be glad you found this site!
Nicki