One thing I thought of Stacey...if he seems disoriented at all this weekend, don't TRY to get him to go to the hospital, just call 911. Let them deal with him. Maybe he will listen to them. Or, have a friend call if there is somebody close enough to you that understands what you are going through. Christine is right, severe hydration will make him think he's dying. Maybe, at that point, he'll cooperate.
So sorry you're going through this.
Kathy

Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14