Stacy - I really like Gloria's idea about a visiting nurse (and PaulB's Water App). Sometimes, advice is more easily taken when it comes from someone other than the caregiver or close family. You know better how your husband would react to this, so you could give him a choice: either shape up and start eating/drinking or you will call the visiting nurse and make sure you request the "nurse from Hell, type" when you do. You could also give him the choice of hydrating himself or you will get someone to come help you get him in the car for a trip to the emergency room or maybe an ambulance could take him there. I can soooo emphathize with you. The memory is still fresh in my mind when my son was refusing to eat or drink. I convinced him I would get my daughter (police officer with a gun) to help me shove him into the car and to the hospital to have a feeding tube installed). That did it. He started eating/drinking. Drastic situations call for drastic measures. And soon. Please take care of you too, Stacey.