Hi Shayne,
I am so sorry for this devastating news. I am caretaker to my Mom who is 88. I cannot even imagine her going through this. For your Mom to be this advanced she has been dealing with this for a long time. What an amazing woman, probably being the rock for your dad the whole time.
I, too, don't have experience with hospice so will leave that open, but just wanted to let you know you will be in our prayers. Please know we are here for you when you need to vent, scream, cry, whatever.
Blessings,
Kathy

Kathy wife/caregiver to:
Kevin age:53
Dx 7/15/11
HPV16+ SCC Stage IV BOT/R
Non smoker, casual drinker
7/27/11 Cistplatin, taxotere,5FU 2/3week sessions, followed by IMRT 125cgy x 60 (2x daily) w/Erbitux weekly. Last rad 10/26/11. Last Erbitux 10/27/11
PEG placed 9/1/11 Removed 11/8/11
Clear PET 10/12 and 10/13 and ct in 6/14