Shayne,
You have good reason for your heart to be breaking. Both parents with advanced cancer is almost too much to bear. I am so sorry.
While we see a lot of people on this board who have really good outcomes after treatment for oral cancer, we also have seen, way too frequently, people die of this disease. I will let those who have experienced it first hand with a family member chime in here with more information. Everyone has a slightly different experince with advanced oral cancer so we cannot be exact in telling you the path the cancer takes to ultimately kill someone. I do think that hospice will be a huge help for you.
You should hear from a lot of us in the next 24 hours and I hope we all can be a support to you in this awful time.
Hugs,
Deb