Eshwar, You definately did not overstep! That's the advise I'm looking for, honest! At this point, I need to know the good, the bad, and the ugly. I'm sorry about your father. They don't tell you theses other things that treatment does, which scared me the most.

To be honest, I'm fearfull of the radiation the most now, ven thougn I had a bad experience with chemo, so now Erbitux is suggested. The MO said I could do it alone, but what benefit, he doesn't know, but it's my choice. something may be better than nothing?

Yesterday i sent all my papers to a hospital here in NYC For a third opionion, hopefully I here from them soon. Today, I'm callin my old RO, and MO for advise, even though they both said no, I think they will help. Wednesday I go to the ENT to take my stitches out, but he is from he same hospital where new treatment is suggested, and said they could not help me decide.

Thank or you help, and I appreciate it very much.