I am SO grateful to all of you that posted back to me...Mom has SCC HPV + and if I remember correctly Stage 2. Mom does have the PEG tube..the 3 of us take turns going to her to feed her ea. day. And we're so glad we're able to do this at least for her. Tomorrow she will start the Erbitux..we do know that it won't kill the cancer...but rather are trying to slow it down as it's agressive her ETN says & the oncologist. No, we don't think she'd make it thru radiation...one Dr wants to do it...mom doesn't...but she's willing to try the chemo...and she understands she can stay stop at anytime. Her ENT feels that after 1 or 2 treatments he'll know if it's doing any good. It's a wait & see thing. And, 007--Kathy...you are an angel....Nothing you said was out of line or coarse. It is life and we all know that an end to this might just be the best. Not giving up...but being real. We watched my dad die inch by inch over 2 yrs...he had the opposite of cancer...total drop in white blood cells...mylo..something I think...he refused to have a PEG tube...had severe scarring in his esophagus from ruptures, tears & surgeries...he couldn't eat...and we watched him starve to death literally. Weighed 98 lbs when he died & 6'3. We just want to make things as easy as possible for mom and comfortable. So...we'll see what tomorrow brings....No one can really tell her or us what to expect...other than it can be bad. She's already been started on the anti-nausea meds..and they do help. I thank you all for your help and support...and think I'll be hanging around here for a long time. PEOPLE--you are AMAZING...God bless all of you...and my prayers are with you. Jane