So sorry to read that you are going through "post treatment fall apart" Laura.
Seems that this happens to most caregivers.
May I suggest starting a new thread under Caregiver/Co-Survivor Forum and ask questions, vent or whatever it takes?
I suspect you will get plenty of help from people who have walked in your shoes.
Love and hugs (PM me if you like)
Gabriele

History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.

1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family