I am the daughter of an oral cancer patient. Our family made it through the squamous cell carcinoma of his jaw and the radiation treatment. Then the return of the cancer and the removal of part of the lower jaw and 7 teeth. Now we all face the return of the cancer in the tongue. The surgery is scheduled for 9/23/10. My mom and I are the caregivers with some support from children and grandchildren. This one is terrifying to both of us.I just joined the support group and will be inviting my mom to join also. We need support in the form of information. How long before dad can communicate? How long until he eats? Will the G-tube ever come out? Mom just bought him an I-Pad to help with the communication.Any words of wisdom for us?