Oh Mancias, I have been going through a good bit of what you will be going through-my mother has Stage IV SCC of the jaw-and I want to make sure that you promise us here that you set some time aside each day to take care of yourself, please please!

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I'm not sure how old your FIL is, but the next few months are going to be very difficult at best. There may be times when he is so sick you aren't sure he's going to make it. THE GOOD NEWS is that I'm confident he will be receiving the best care he needs in these months. Your presence will be vital, but you're not going to have to worry about physically caring for him for at least 6 weeks (hospitalization and rehab, my mom is still in 16 weeks later). By that time you should hopefully be an expert as long as you regularly post on this board.

I have found the family politics to be as challenging as my mom's recovery. It helps me so greatly to come to this board for advice and venting. Everyone here is so well informed in all areas. PLease keep us updated and god bless.