Well, that's good that a therapist is involved, now. Sometimes it's easier to take advice from an objective 3rd party than from the person that loves him the most. Sounds like he's really testing your love and dedication. Maybe it's time to put the "nurse from Hell hat" on and be a little more forceful and tell him just how you really feel. It worked for me 4 years ago when I got the same advice from a very compassionate poster. Of course I cried all the way home in the car afterwards. You can always apologize later if it doesn't work. There is just so much a person should be expected to endure. Caregiving is a tough job and CG's need a little care, too. Maybe you could talk to his therapist or his doctor and see if they have suggestions. Also, try to think of something nice to do for You! Chocolate comes to mind, or maybe a lunch date with a friend or a funny movie?