Whilst I appreciate that many people, particularly new members, on the forum are scared or sensitive and may view a comment as abrasive or insulting, I would like to put myself forward as one of the others who see the supportive comments as less valuable than the baldly stated opinions and facts.

The supportive posts may well frustrate the those who want the bald truth without the "emotional crap", and the "bald truth" posts could well offend those seeking support.

The point I am taking forever to make in an attempt to recognise everyone's style without offending anyone, is that there are many personal styles and each one is valid. Provided there are no personal attacks (eg "get over yourself" as opposed to "I disagree with ..."), we should all be able figure out whose style we appreciate and avoid or ignore those whose style we don't.

Luckily for all of us there are thousands of posts to choose from so this shouldn't be too difficult.

Karen
PS I would love to tell the story of my family's weekly dinners with Mum the "Peacemaker" at one end and Dad the "Debater" at the other but that would make this post even longer than it already is.