Figuring out how and when to tell the kids is one of the hardest parts of this. Our kids are young adults, 24 and 18, but we still waited until we got all the test results back, pet, ct scans, etc. before we told them. That way we were able to give them all the facts and what the plan to fix it was.

Sending you good wishes,
Debbie

Debbie, 53 wife and caregiver to Jim, 68, non-smoker, social drinks only. Stage IV SCC rt. tonsil. HPV+. Neck dissection 12/29/09. Peg inserted 2/2/10. Cisplatin and rad started 2/9/10. Carboplatin given 2nd round. 3rd round cancelled due to toxicity. Finished 30 rad treatments 3/23/10.