Hi Tammara, not sure if this helps or not. Last April we found out that my wife was terminal and as I pressed for a timeline was told typically a person with her diagnosis would have about a year and in her case hopefully longer with receiving treatment. Without treatment, would anticipate four to six months. She has been receiving chemo atleast every three weeks, gone through numerous chemo drugs but has just past the year mark and as I again pressed for where we are at, were told that six months of "good" health would be reasonable. My estimate is that she sleeps around fourteen hours a day and generally doesn't have a lot of energy but that still leaves us seven or eight hours a day of time together once I come home from work. Our schedule may be very strange where she will often sleep until one or two in the afternoon, catching a short nap while using the feeding pump and then staying up until one or two in the morning when her nightime feeding ends. I guess just trying to say that even if you do need to keep working, try to optomize the time you have together.

Don't know what type of support system you have but something that helped us immensely was that family, friends and coworkers held a garage sale, bake sale etc. that raised some money for us that allowed me to take some time off work. For us this was at the early part of diagnosis and treatment but think that if your friend knew your situation, would love to come up with ways to help. If that is not an option (or even if it is) try contacting the American Cancer Society to see if you can receive some help with the medical bills and try to come up with a way to take some time off unpaid while his health is still holding up.

So sorry that you are having to deal with this, will keep you, your husband and family in our prayers.