Tammara --

How sorry I am that you all find yourselves in this situation.

There are two lengthy threads that may be helpful to you: by Cookey (Liz) and by JAM (Amy, who also lives in Arkansas). Each is very honest in describing the physical and emotional changes in both the patient and the caregiver, and they may provide you with information that could prepare you for the weeks and months ahead.

Other threads in the OCF Cancer Blogs forum cover these issues as well, but these two are particularly detailed and memorable.

Leslie

April 2006: Husband dx by dentist with leukoplakia on tongue. Oral surgeon's biopsy 4/28/06: Moderate dysplasia; pathology report warned of possible "skip effect." ENT's excisional biopsy (got it all) 5/31/06: SCC in situ/small bit superficially invasive. Early detection saves lives.