Tamara it pained me to read that you have to leave Hubert and go to work every day.That is an emotional upheaval that you could do without really although i guess if you still have some months to go it is not so bad as us who only had days from his recurrence.The time you have left is so precious and can lay down the foundation for coping once you are alone.Have you discussed what he wants and how he feels,because you really should be clear in your own mind that when his time comes you have no unresolved issues and you have said everything you ever wanted to each other.If you don't this will come back to haunt you in the months to come,and its something you can't go back and do again.

Does your job have a compassionate leave entitlement?If it has you should try to get some definitive time line from the hospice that will let you know when communication might become difficult so that you can make sure you get these much needed conversations underway.

As for no one answering your questions Tamara,that will never happen here and should not be happening in the hospice.Keep asking until someone tells you what you need to know

love liz