Hey Kate
Your situation is a tough one, and reminds me how lucky i was to be in a good company when the $hit hit the fan...
Two things in particular you said really resonated..
1. Not letting other peoples reactions bother you because their reaction says more about them than you.
Not always easy to keep at the fore, but so true.
2. working lunches.
they have to be the hardest. My two most challenging tasks (eating and talking) combined!
peace
jp.