Kate - I think I understand how you are feeling, in a very small way. I had only a partial glossectomy, but in my field and career I have to do a lot of public speaking, as well as constant communication with customers and vendors, and it really gets to me when I realize people don't always understand me. i try to speak slowly and articulate well (my speech therapist was great at helping me with that) but I am still self conscious at times. I can imagine how you feel, and I know too well how we as women can be the worst at making other women feel inferior. (why do we do that to each other?) All I can say to you is that I've followed your progress both here and on your blog and I think you are awesome, brave, and deserve the best life has to offer you. Wish I was in a position to hire you - I bet you are also great at what you do. I really think you will find something soon that will be just perfect for you - don't be afraid to start looking and see what's possible. If you get a job with another company that has healthcare, they have to insure you - that's most of what HIPAA was actually for. And, now with Obama Care - guess soon it won't be an issue. I changed jobs less than 2 years after my surgery - was a little nervous about that, but it's turned out great. and no problems with health insurance at all.
Please keep remembering what an awesome person and role model you are,
Ginny