I am having a very difficult time with the visting thing.People dont seem to understand that when rob and i go to yorkshire he literally doesnt want them to come visit.He wants to say goodbye this week and then just be alone with me.His brother and his sister want to drive up at weekends to visit and his sister wants to come and stay but he doesnt want that and i dont know how to deal with this diplomatically.

They are all hurting so badly and as you all know rob is not good at the emotion thing and at the end of the day his wishes must be respected i think.This is a very dangerous minefield and the last thing i want is for Robs passing to be marred by sibling in fighting.