Hey Liz, I fully agree with Bren. The bottom line is my health is my responsibility. A caregiver can help with all of their rescources, but if I refuse to take care of myself, their efforts are just wasted.

I'm going to say this and then leave it alone. When I was actively drinking I figured out that when my behavior ran people off, my pityful state would bring them back. If he can't let his brother help him, it's clear he doesn't want help he just wants you. It is a classic reaction of someone in Robin's position. Search your heart and do what you have to do, but take care of yourself. He is an adult and will have to accept responsibility for his life at some point. You can't keep doing it for him. Good Luck