Oi Liz---stop beating yourself up NOW!!!
The weather has conspired to trap you--tonite we have a 'refugee' family staying with us--Ray's family plus 2 dogs who have been flooded out!

And Rob knows you're stuck and he's a grown man who can ask his brother to go with him or not.
Of course you're wracked with guilt---you're a woman--but he has to take some responsibility for himself, he can't keep manipulating you.
I know he's in a 'black-hole' and cancer is a horrible thing, but how much use will you be to him anyway if YOU'RE a wreck????

Take a deep breath Liz, take care of yourself.
Of course you're worried sick, but don't forget you are NOT God and this is NOT YOUR FAULT.
Your behaviour has not been selfish, it's been self-presevatory.

When you can get to him, do what you can, but also don't let yourself be abused---and don't put yourself at risk in this weather trying to get there before it's safe! Keep in touch with him and his family and friends and don't feel guilty as the weather is beyond your control.
Glad you got back to the village safely---keep your chin up Liz, we're rooting for you---and for Robin--he's getting looked at/after tomorrow and if he won't have his brother look after him, the hospital will arrange something!
love Brenda


Brenda in UK--Diagnosis 30/5/07--undifferentiated carcinoma in right jawbone and muscles. Stage 4
6/7/07--new diagnosis primary is in lung. Finished 4cycles of palliative carboplatin/gemcitabine
therapy September 07
Now dying to live!