Liz, my heart goes out to you. What a predicament. I know that you are being torn apart. One question is whether life is better where you can see what's happening, or apart, where you are constantly conflicted and disturbed.\

I like the idea of personal counseling....someone you pay to listen just to YOU! Wouldn't that feel good??....

and I really like Gary's suggestion of a family intervention....meeting with a professional who can keep the discussion civil and goal-oriented..a place where all can say what they feel in a safe environment and can come to some agreement on the next step. At least everyone would understand each other better. Others can be included if the professional thinks it is a good idea. You would want to meet with the prof. first, though you have to be careful that he/she is not perceived by Robin as someone hired by you so you can get your way....He needs to feel that HIS opinions and feelings are equally important. It's a nice, safe way to get feelings out in the open.