dear liz, i am crying with you right now. i don't know the answer to any of your questions. there seems to be something so especially awful in this cancer's attack. i am at an early stage in ca of the tongue. sometimes i feel like giving up becauase i dont want to go through what may lay ahead. i have one son working and in college from whom i have kept all but the most elementary details of my disease. he has been sober from drug and alcolhol addiction for over two years and i dont want to lay any stress on him. i have an adult daughter whom i adopted at age five. she has mental disability adn lives at home...but there are a lot of decisions to be made about her future that somehow i cant seem to make. the only thing that i am clear about in your letter is that giving up your life will not help robin. please dont be ashamed. your letter is so full of the very essence of a deep deep love. i will pray for you...and robin. mary ann