ok...here is what i know...mom called and said she needed me to talk w/ dad b/c he won't listen to her...he tends to shut down and shut out people even before cancer diagnosis...mom feels dad will sometimes listen to me when he gets like this...so he has 6 radiations and one more chemo left...the past 7 or 8 days have been really bad and i'm speculating that the straw that broke camel's back is the numerous sores inside mouth, lost of taste...in addition to constipation, diarrahea, extreme tiredness, etc...yes, ya'll know more than me...he is not a complainer so thats what i've pulled out of him so far...he was doing good amnaging his side effect and was told all of these that might to be expected...but he kinda hung his hat on that day 3-5 after chemo was the worst then gets a little more manageable for just a couple days before it starts again...WELL NOW...the 'bad' days r getting longer and 'not as bad days' shorter...actually mom says it's cummlative and pretty much he hasn't had any 'break periods' ...OMG....I FEEL SOOO BAD FOR HIM...MOM SAID SHE FOUND HIM LAYING ON THE BATHROOM FRIDAY W/ TOWELSUNDER HIM B/C HE WAS TOO SICK TO MOVE....shortly after that he told mom he wasn't go back to treatments....that the doc's always do more than hethinks he needs...he says it's "overkill" and he's not going back...she calls me and he tells me he feels wonderful and everything is fine...mom is in the background saying...'tina, he lying..he feels worse than ever.....anyways...last convo he says he is going to talk to doc tommorow...BUT MOM THINKS HE MAY BE TELLING US WHAT WE WANT TO HERE TO GET US OFF HIS BACK...........MOM WANTS ME TO MAYBE JUST SHOW UP AT DOC AND BE THERE W/ HIM TOMMOROW SO I GOT A SITTER FOR MY 2 YR OLD TWINS......KEEP IN MIND...DAD DOESN'T WANT ANYONE TO COME "WASTE" THEIR TIME TO VISIT HIM DURING RX....FINALLY TO MY QUESTIONS........ISN'T THERE SOMETHING THE DOCS SUGGEST FOR SIDE EFFECTS...DOES ANYONE KNOW OF SOME MEDICAL SHAKE I HEARD OF A WHILE BACK THAT HELPS NUMB THE MOUTH AND THROAT TO EAT/DRINK??? OR IS THEIR NOT MUCH TO DO ONCE THE SORES R THERE??? WHAT IS THE SMOOTHEST WAY TO INTERVENE AND HELP???? I MEAN I CAN'T REALLY BLAME HIM FOR FEELING THIS WAY??? IS THIS AN EMERGENCY OR DO PEOPLE DO THIS OFTEN??? IS MISSING THE LAST WEEK A MAKE A BRAKE OF RE-OCCURING OR NOT??? I KNOW IT'S BEST TO DISCUSS W/ DOCS BUT I WANT YA'LLS OPINION TOOO....DAD WON'T ASK DOC AND IF HE DOES HE MAY NOT TELL US WHAT THEY SAID...