Scot,

First, welcome to OCF and these forums. What you will find here is an opportunity to vent and to collect valuable information.

What I think everyone would like to know about before really spitting out information is going to be a little more on Brother in Law's (BIL) cancer. What kind of cancer is it (Squamus Cell Carcinoma ect..) what stage, metastisis?

Having no insurance isn't a death sentence. Your state and county should have an emergency medicaid program that is evaluated on a financial need basis...your BIL should easily qualify. They will pick up the medical bills and keep a running tab which your family will be responsible to eventually payback. Don't be afraid of that last part as they usually make flexible payment options. This is a short term solution as your BIL should also be applying for SSI and Medicaid immediately depending on his diagnosis.

Depending on what they are doing in your brother's surgery 3 day hospital stay could be spot on...I just had a 5 hour surgery that involved skin and nerve grafts that they had to lift half my face off...I had the option of it being an outpatient surgery but elected to stay a day. My first surgery kept me in the hospital for 11 days but then it was a major, 17 hour surgery.

Anyway, the more info you can supply, the more info will be available to you. This is a tough time for your family, just remember that while scary and not an easy road...it's a road that others have traveled.

Eric