Omigod Liz! I wondered why you said you were in Leeds and he in Hampshire. And now I'VE confessed to being a smoker and drinker and YOU offered to help ME!--I feel so guilty now I've read this post!
I HAVE promised myself that if there is any hope for me, I will give up the booze and fags, if there isn't then I'm doing the 'live it don't survive' as long as I can. As for the 'Robin needs me'----I know where you're coming from, but I finally gave up on my hubby and chose my kids, parents and myself--and found peace of mind--Mike destroyed himself anyway, finishing up in a hostel and dying 2 years ago--I understand 2 people were at his funeral! I do actually drink much more moderately than that, but still feel guilty because obviously I'm sure it's contributed to the cancer. If YOU need an ear Liz, PM or email me--I'm not sure how to do it yet, being a bit new to the site--but LOL---me email starts with 'cookies' and Yorkshire aint that big