Go with your wedding plans - if your FIL's want to come they will - you have no control over anyone attending or not attending...all you have control over is the invite list, not the attended list - if the FIL's don't come, make sure you have plenty of pictures made so that you can show it to them AND DO NOT RESENT THEM AT ALL! They are doing the best they can. Jim and were married quietly by the Justice of the Peace and I kept asking shouldn't we have invited his parents - he said, no, because they wouldn't be interested. Jim had never been married before. Since being in this wonderful family, I have learned they did want to attend, but respected Jim's wishes because he was still reeling from the "cancer diagnos" a few weeks earlier. So, go with what makes y'all happy and the rest will fall into place.....Good Luck!
Paula