You're not being selfish at all...I say go for the wedding. I bet if you asked your future FIL about this he wouldn't want you putting your wedding on hold because of him. Life is too short....live it to the fullest!

Shelley

Caregiver to husband Ron. Throat Cancer. Finished 35 radiation treatments on 11/21/04. 8/2/11 small lesion on lower gum, laser Procedure to remove. 3/6/12 Doc. removed another lesion on outside of his neck. Did a skin graft from his chest to replace the skin on his neck. Went to Heaven on 6/24/12.