what i am going to suggest to them is that if the time comes and they are too self coonscious to attend, we will go up to where they live and have a private ceremony the day or two afterwards.
its not in my heart to elope or do a private wedding, i've always dreamed of my "big day"...

*KATIE*
future FIL dx with s4 SCC in jaw11/09 15 hour surg/trach/PEG in. 7 weeks of cisplatin/rads. 6/10- cancerous lung nodule- 1 wk of radiation. 8/13 pneumonia. 8/24 pulmonary embolism, on ventillator. 9/3/10 died peacefully w/o pain with family. 9/17/10 my wedding