#35355 07-04-2007 05:26 AM | Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 583 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) |  "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 583 | Karen,
So sorry for the loss of your Dad. Prayers & Hugs to your family.
OCF is always here for you, so please come back if you are up to it. You can be great help to others.
Take care
Diane
2004 SCC R.tip 1/4 tongue Oct. 2005 R. Neck SCC cancer/Chemo Cisplatin 2x/8wks. Rad. Removed Jugular vein, Lymph gland & some neck muscle. TX finished 1/20/06... B.Cancer 3/29/07 Finished 6/07 Bi-op 7/15/09 SCC in-situ, laser surgery removed from 1st. sight. Right jaw replacement 11/3/14. 9 yrs cancer free as of Jan. 2015
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#35356 07-04-2007 05:50 AM | Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Senior Patient Advocate Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 8,311 | Karen,
It doesn't take this cancer long to claim something so valuable. Your words are so true and it sounds like you will make the best of this life experience.
David
Age 58 at Dx, HPV16+ SCC, Stage IV BOT+2 nodes, non smoker, casual drinker, exercise nut, Cisplatin x 3 & concurrent IMRT x 35,(70 Gy), no surgery, no Peg, Tx at Moffitt over Aug 06. Jun 07, back to riding my bike 100 miles a wk. Now doing 12 Spin classes and 60 outdoor miles per wk. Nov 13 completed Hilly Century ride for Cancer, 104 miles, 1st Place in my age group. Apr 2014 & 15, Spun for 9 straight hrs to raise $$ for YMCA's Livestrong Program. Certified Spin Instructor Jun 2014.
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#35357 07-04-2007 11:29 AM | Joined: May 2007 Posts: 632 "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (300+ posts)
Joined: May 2007 Posts: 632 | Karen,
Your dad will have passed on secure in the love and care of his wonderful compassionate daughter--and you're right, it does show us all the best (and sometimes worst) in other people.
You will have your memories of your strong, caring, appreciative dad and these will help you with your grief.
Take some time now to be kind to yourself and remeber all the good you've done, thinking of you with so much sympathy,
Brenda
Brenda in UK--Diagnosis 30/5/07--undifferentiated carcinoma in right jawbone and muscles. Stage 4
6/7/07--new diagnosis primary is in lung. Finished 4cycles of palliative carboplatin/gemcitabine
therapy September 07
Now dying to live!
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#35358 07-04-2007 11:49 AM | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 Patient Advocate (1000+ posts) | | Patient Advocate (1000+ posts)
Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 1,140 Likes: 1 | Karen, know that your dad's spirit will live on in your heart and in your memories. This time of intense grief will pass and your life will be different, but in a wonderful way your dad will always be a part of it through you. | | |
#35359 07-04-2007 04:55 PM | Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts)
Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | Karen - I am so sorry for your loss. You really have inspired many of us throughout this journey. The love and caring that was evident between the two of you was so special to see. I am sure your Dad's spirit is close to you now and he has his arms around you. I hope that you and your family will the peace and comfort in the days ahead that you so deserve. Please keep in touch whenever you can and let us know how you are doing.
Anne-Marie
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
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#35360 07-05-2007 02:00 AM | Joined: May 2003 Posts: 102 Gold Member (100+ posts) | | Gold Member (100+ posts)
Joined: May 2003 Posts: 102 | Dear Karen,
I am so heartfully sorry for your loss. I too, was very close to my Dad. When he died nine days after a massive coronary, I was temporarily stunned. Frozen in time and space. That was his third and final heart attack. I had lost my best friend. But Aunt Rosemary's death from this disease has taught me something very important. Knowing what she was going through, seeing what she was going through...... if they can't come back from the battle, it's better for them to go home and be at peace. Now he is truly able to watch over you again, just as he did his whole life. Just in a different way.
He is with you. He will always be with you.
Hugs,
Lisa
Niece to Aunt Ro- Dx: 4/03. SCC Stg 4 BOT with mets to fl of mth & crvcl lymph node. AdenoC 1 sal gland. Two add. reconstrc. surgeries for adhesions. Recurrence 7/06- Sub-Mand AdenoC. Mets to both lungs. Lost her battle 5/4/07.
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#35361 07-05-2007 02:09 AM | Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 176 Senior Member (100+ posts) | | Senior Member (100+ posts)
Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 176 | Karen,
I have also been following your journey and rooting for your Dad's recovery. I'm sure that your Dad was very proud to have you for his daughter and advocate. And yes...SB is a great town....
Best Regards,
Rob
6-05, Left Tonsil-T1N2bM0 stageIVA, chemo(Cisplatin), radiation(6660cGy), neck disection, no PEG. HPV negative. (Doc suspects posit)
3-9-09 last of 30 HBO treatments.
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#35362 07-05-2007 12:09 PM | Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 75 Senior Member (75+ posts) | | OP Senior Member (75+ posts)
Joined: Jul 2006 Posts: 75 | Thank you all so much for all of your kind words.
I know that you too have loved and lost and I am sorry for that.
God saw you getting tired, He did what he thought best; He put His arms
around you, And said, "Come and rest." He opened up His golden
gates, On that heartbreaking day; And with His arms around you, You
gently slipped away. It broke our hearts to lose you, You did not go
alone; A part of us went with you, The day God called you home.
karen and dad
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#35363 07-05-2007 03:21 PM | Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 221 Gold Member (200+ posts) | | Gold Member (200+ posts)
Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 221 | Hi Karen, My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family during this difficult time. Thank you for sharing yourself and your father with us.
Hugs,
Joy
CG to Father, 75 yo with SCC of the mouth; upper maxillectomy and neck diss. performed on 5/23/07. Father also suffered heart attack during surgery and now has CHF. RT complete on 8/28/07. Cancer back 11/27/07. RT and Chemo to start on 12/17. Cancer back 6/17/08. Finally at rest 08/08/08.
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#35364 07-05-2007 04:03 PM | Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 735 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 735 | Karen I had been wondering about you , and I am so sorry to hear about your dad..he was such a lucky man to have a wonderful daughter such as yourself and you in turn were lucky to have such a wondeful dad. May you find comfort in the fact that you did everything above and beyond , and that he no longer suffers. He has taught you to be such a compassionate woman. there was a poem that was read at my grandmothers funeral that has touched me and stayed with me .. http://www.lindaslyrics.com/The%20Dash%20Poem.html I tried to copy and paste and it wouldnt let me so there is the site . My heart and thoughts are with you . Shar
Sharlee
35 year old Female Non smoker, very occasional alcohol ..Scc T1N0M0,partial glossectomy and left neck disection ,2/9/07 No rad deemed ness. 4/16 tonsillectomy ..Trimengenial Neuralga due to surgery
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