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Scared Caregiver #195543
12-27-2017 09:13 PM
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Who do you talk to when you're frightened? Has anyone been caring for their loved one and started thinking, they're dying in front of me? I'm sorry I can't be more articulate, I just deal with fear every day and then there are the nightmares. Does anyone else feel they're caught in an endless trap of care giving and then crying into a pillow so your sick partner can't hear you?

Re: Scared Caregiver [Re: trisha] #195546
12-28-2017 09:23 AM
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Trish,

I started seeing a therapist when my husband’s cancer metastasized. I found that very helpful. It was suggested by my family doctor because she thought it would help me. Is there a counseling department at your hospital? They can be of great help too.


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12-29-2017 01:01 AM
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I too had some sessions with a Councellor. I cried often when not around my husband, - in the car, shower etc. I was overcome with the fear of losing him and what my life would be like as a widow.
Just talking about this to someone who was impartial helped me enormously. The Councellor made me see the whole picture, gave me options and gave me coping strategies.
We are 7 years from diagnosis now. 😀


Caregiver/advocate to Husband Kris age 59@ diagnosis
DX Dec '10 SCC BOT T4aN2bM0 HPV+ve.Cisplatin x3 35 IMRT.
PET 6/11 clear.
R) level 2-4 neck dissection 8/1/11 to remove residual node - necrotic with NED
Feb '12 Ca back.. 3/8/12 total glossectomy/laryngectomy/bilat neck dissection/partial pharyngectomy etc. clear margins. All nodes negative for disease. PEG in.
March 2017 - 5 years disease free. Woohoo!
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Thank you for sharing that-- I worried I was the only one crying in the shower.


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