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Joined: Jun 2010 Posts: 58 | John is in the hospital. Found out yesterday that he has mets to pelvis and brain.
He had severe disorientation and dizzyness so took him to ER Tues nite and after CT and MRI discovered mets.
Nothing more they can do. He is sedated and comfortable with pain meds. Hospice is next step. Don't know if I can do this. Heartbroken.
Bonnie
CG to husb John, 57, love of my life for 35 yrs.
Dx 2/10, T2N2cMx, SCC BOT & lymph nodes.
Non smoker. Biopsy HPV+.
No surgery - IMRT 35X + 7 chemos cleared BOT
9/10-mets to lungs.
2 rounds chemo, last one trial drug which did not work.
Lost the battle, but walking in Glory 9/7/11.
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 476 | Bonnie, I am so, so sorry. I know that there are no words to make you feel better. Please know that we are here for you. It breaks my heart when I read posts like yours'. My husband's name is also John and I know that it could easily be me walking the path you are on. I will keep all of you in my prayers. Hugs, Wanda
Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Bonnie,
I'm sending you all the love I have.
Life is a journey that has a beginning and an end for us. It is the love and memories shared with those we hold dear that make life so sweet...and so hard when the journey is ending.
John is leaving the pain and struggle and finding peace...he is leaving knowing that he was loved and that he had a companion that loved him and was willing to be there with him until the end of his journey.
As a man who believed my time had come, I can never express the feelings I had (and have) for my wife/caregiver, Aly, knowing she was there with me and for me until I passed on.
My heart is with you and John...peace be with you both.
Eric
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Jul 2011 Posts: 131 | All my love and thoughts are with you.
Dx: 3/11 Stage III glottic laryngeal SCC HPV 16+ Tx Start: 7/18/11 chemoradiation 7wks - Tomotherapy IMRT x 34 / Cisplatin x 7 Tx End:9/1/11]-[as of 1/20/12 - ALL CLEAR!]
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Joined: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,671 | I'm so sorry, Bonnie. I wish there was something i could do or say to help ease the hurt for both of you. My heart just breaks for you. I hope in the days ahead, there will be some moments of peace, and someone close by to give you a hug.
Anne-Marie
CG to son, Paul (age 33, non-smoker) SCC Stage 2, Surgery 9/21/06, 1/6 tongue Rt.side removed, +48 lymph nodes neck. IMRTx28 completed 12/19/06. CT scan 7/8/10 Cancer-free! ("spot" on lung from scar tissue related to Pneumonia.)
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Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 307 | Oh Bonnie.....I am so heartbroken for you. Us caregivers always fear something like this could happen. Praying for God to give you strength in the days ahead.
Hugs from California,
Shelley
Caregiver to husband Ron. Throat Cancer. Finished 35 radiation treatments on 11/21/04. 8/2/11 small lesion on lower gum, laser Procedure to remove. 3/6/12 Doc. removed another lesion on outside of his neck. Did a skin graft from his chest to replace the skin on his neck. Went to Heaven on 6/24/12.
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Joined: Dec 2010 Posts: 5,264 Likes: 5 | I'm so sorry, and you must be devastated! My thoughts and prayers are with you. All of us are Here to share your pain! Love and hugs to you!
Cheryl : Irritation - 2004 BX: 6/2008 : Inflam. BX: 12/10, DX: 12/10 : SCC - LS tongue well dif. T2N1M0. 2/11 hemigloss + recon. : PND - 40 nodes - 39 clear. 3/11 - 5/11 IMRT 33 + cis x2, PEG 3/28/11 - 5/19/11 3 head, 2 chest scans - clear(fingers crossed) HPV-, No smoke, drink, or drugs, Vegan
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Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 123 | Bonnie,
I am heartbroken for you as well. I hope you can find comfort in the days ahead of being together. John has been so brave through all of this as well as you. I know it doesn't seem possible but you will get through it. Just take it one minute at a time and work up to one day at a time. I wish you both peace.
Jill
Jill..CG to Ken, age 43,mom of 1yr old girl.
DIAG:12/9/10 SCC BOT T4N0M0 HPV+
START:1/3/11 IMRT dailyX35 and 7 chemo
END:2/23/11 PEG IN:1/15/11 Out:4/26/11
CT/MRI 4/25/11-marked improvement CT 6/11 new spots
BX 6/23-cancer present
Total Glossectomy sched 7/20/11
7/19/11 Ken's suffering ended
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Joined: Apr 2011 Posts: 267 | My heart goes out to you both. I wish I had some words that would ease your sadness.
Tracy - 33 at diagnosis
SCC right ventral tongue Dx 4/11.
T1N2M0
1st resection 5/11.
Bilateral neck dissection: 2 pos nodes
2nd resection w/graft 6/11.
Erbitux x 11 completed 9/11. IMRT x 30 completed 8/11.
3 month MRI and PET/CT all clear.
6, 9, 12 and 24 month post treatment MRIs all clear.
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Joined: Jul 2009 Posts: 280 | Bonnie - Honey I am so sorry things have taken this turn for John. I am shaking in my boots today waiting on Matt to get home with his PET scan disc. I fear this will be us all too soon. My heart breaks with yours.
CG to my husband, Matt. Dx June 2009 Stage IV Oropharengeal SCC right tonsil primary with distant metastases. Rad to neck- Surgeries to lungs- Every avail chemo - ran out of options Jan 2012, called for hospice help Feb 2012, at rest March 19, 2012.
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